Your Options in Divorce. (Hint: There Are Only Two)

By far, the most common question I get when someone is new to the divorce space is, “What are my options?”

My response is always the same: stay married or get divorced.

I know this may seem simplistic. Especially if you are one of those people right now wondering the same thing. But you’re really just trying to find out what the divorce process will look like if you decide to go through with it. And if it’s too much trouble – or too painful – you won’t do it. Or you will put it off.

What this question tells me is that you haven’t really decided yet that you want a divorce. Because the people who really want a divorce – the ones who have already decided – don’t ask what their options are. They don’t need to. They know they are going through with it no matter what.

So this is what I can tell you – and what I do tell people when they ask me this question.

I can’t tell you exactly what your divorce will look like, because there are so many other factors. But I can tell you that you will be okay. I have never seen anyone not be ok. You either want your life to be different – and you’re committed to achieving that – or not.

One of my favorite quotes is, “Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you’re right.” ~Henry Ford

So if you want a divorce, we can help you with that. We can help you get your done, get it signed, and file all your paperwork to get you divorced. But the hardest part is just making the decision.

When you decide, we’re here for you. Schedule your free consultation .

About the Author


John Nachlinger is a co-founder and managing attorney of Netsquire, a family law firm focused on streamlining divorces through effective mediation, settlement drafting, and court filing assistance. As a New Jersey Supreme Court Certified Matrimonial Law Attorney and Qualified Mediator, John guides couples toward equitable agreements without the cost and stress of litigation.

Recognized as a New Jersey Super Lawyer for over a decade, John’s client-focused approach aims to foster understanding during challenging transitions. With a background spanning top law journals, judicial clerkships, and boutique family law firms, John now applies his analytical skills to create workable solutions for all parties. His mediation services reshape the divorce journey by prioritizing compassion and compromise.

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