Most divorce attorneys won’t tell you this because if they have you on the phone telling your story for the umpteenth millionth time, they’re billing you for it!

Your marriage story is not relevant to your divorce and the more time you spend talking about it the more money you’ll spend for your attorney to hear it. We need to know if your spouse cheated on you, but we don’t need to know how they ruined your relationship, we know they did, that is why you are getting divorced. You should be very selective about who you are and who you want to vent with, don’t vent to your attorney. They’re charging you a lot of money. You don’t need to vent to them. Vent to your friends and get a licensed therapist to help you through your emotional journey.

A therapist is 1000% more qualified to help you with the emotional part of your divorce than your attorney. You need someone objective to help. Also, think twice about listening to your friend’s advice. We are sure they’re very nice people, but they don’t know what they’re talking about. If they went through a divorce, maybe they can relate on some level to what you’re experiencing but their divorce was certainly different. You know you’re experiencing your divorce in your own way. So, your friends and whatever their outcome was or whatever happened to them is irrelevant to whatever you’re going through. That’s why you should see a therapist to help you with your unique situation.

About the Author


John Nachlinger is a co-founder and managing attorney of Netsquire, a family law firm focused on streamlining divorces through effective mediation, settlement drafting, and court filing assistance. As a New Jersey Supreme Court Certified Matrimonial Law Attorney and Qualified Mediator, John guides couples toward equitable agreements without the cost and stress of litigation.

Recognized as a New Jersey Super Lawyer for over a decade, John’s client-focused approach aims to foster understanding during challenging transitions. With a background spanning top law journals, judicial clerkships, and boutique family law firms, John now applies his analytical skills to create workable solutions for all parties. His mediation services reshape the divorce journey by prioritizing compassion and compromise.

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