Friends are there for you through thick and thin, we get it.

But though your friends may be successful, intelligent, and well-intentioned, their advice can be harmful, especially about divorce!

We all have our own poison that we are trying to get rid of. This means we are all different. If you want real advice on what to do, go to a therapist or counselor, find someone objective to your unique situation. They’re just going to give you an honest opinion from a professional standpoint.

Have you ever heard this?

  • You know what? Everybody’s miserable in their marriage. You should just stick it out.
  • Don’t listen to that attorney I got this amazing result, DO THIS!
  • You know what? I only have sex once a year, that’s enough.
  • You took a vow! For better or for worse, this will pass.

This is all terrible advice! Your friends might just want to see you happy, so they start offering their opinions and their lives aren’t perfect and their situation is completely different from yours. You need to think about what you need to be happy and what your standards are. Live your life by your standards. Not everyone else’s

You can’t look for other people’s approval or disapproval about whether you should be in a marriage or whether you should be getting a divorce.

You deserve to be happy and have the life you want.

About the Author


John Nachlinger is a co-founder and managing attorney of Netsquire, a family law firm focused on streamlining divorces through effective mediation, settlement drafting, and court filing assistance. As a New Jersey Supreme Court Certified Matrimonial Law Attorney and Qualified Mediator, John guides couples toward equitable agreements without the cost and stress of litigation.

Recognized as a New Jersey Super Lawyer for over a decade, John’s client-focused approach aims to foster understanding during challenging transitions. With a background spanning top law journals, judicial clerkships, and boutique family law firms, John now applies his analytical skills to create workable solutions for all parties. His mediation services reshape the divorce journey by prioritizing compassion and compromise.

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