Any type of family law dispute is typically highly fact specific, as well
as emotionally charged. Allowing parties an avenue to create a settlement
agreement that is custom tailored to their family and situation is often
an optimal solution to bringing a contentious, drawn out process to a
quicker end. Mediation is the way this is often done in family law cases.
The process can be instrumental in minimizing animosity, and helping to
smooth the way to a settlement.

Mediation is a process in which the parties will meet with a neutral third
party, in order to try to find middle ground and settle their disputes.
The neutral third party is the mediator. Under New Jersey law, a mediator
does not have to be a lawyer, but this is typically the case. The mediator
does not represent either party, and will not force you to enter a settlement
agreement. Rather, the mediator’s role is to help guide you through
the potential issues and help you find middle ground. The mediator may
be able to provide some guidance or insight as to what a court may be
likely to do or how it will rule. However, the mediator will not provide
either party with legal advice, as that is the role of your attorney.
Before you attend mediation, make sure you discuss your case with your
attorney, and know which issues are the most important to you. It’s
beneficial to know before you arrive where you will and will not compromise.

There are many advantages to mediation. First is that it can help you reach
a conclusion to your dispute quickly. Family law disputes can be drawn
out proceedings requiring many court appearances. By reaching a settlement
in mediation, you can help reduce that time. Second, reaching a settlement
in mediation can help greatly cut down on your legal fees. Finally, and
most importantly, mediation is a way for you and the other side to create
a custom agreement. Without a doubt, you are much better acquainted with
the nuances of your case than a judge would be. It makes more sense for
you to retain as much control over your issues as possible, as this lets
you craft the perfect solution. This is especially true in custody cases.
Each child and family has its own dynamic and own personality. Settling
in mediation lets you and the other parent take your child’s individuality
into account when deciding on a parenting schedule.

Mediation can be an important tool in divorce or in almost any other family
law case. We have experience in guiding our clients through this process,
and in helping make custom solutions to the issues that are specific to
your family.

About the Author


John Nachlinger is a co-founder and managing attorney of Netsquire, a family law firm focused on streamlining divorces through effective mediation, settlement drafting, and court filing assistance. As a New Jersey Supreme Court Certified Matrimonial Law Attorney and Qualified Mediator, John guides couples toward equitable agreements without the cost and stress of litigation.

Recognized as a New Jersey Super Lawyer for over a decade, John’s client-focused approach aims to foster understanding during challenging transitions. With a background spanning top law journals, judicial clerkships, and boutique family law firms, John now applies his analytical skills to create workable solutions for all parties. His mediation services reshape the divorce journey by prioritizing compassion and compromise.

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