How do I know if my divorce is a good fit for mediation?

How do I know if my divorce is a good fit for mediation?  

A lot of people come to us asking for an “uncontested” divorce.  People equate “uncontested” with cheaper, faster and less fighting. And that is true. But what makes your case uncontested is having reached a settlement. A divorce where the parties have not reached a settlement is considered “contested.”

So how do you get to be uncontested? How do you settle? Mediation is one way to get you there. Mediation is simply a process where a neutral third party helps facilitate a settlement between the parties. The mediator should be an experienced family lawyer, or someone who is experienced in mediating divorce cases in New Jersey, who knows all the issues that you need to discuss to get your case done.  You want to be sure not to leave any issues out to avoid problems down the road.

requires that both parties be committed to the process. That doesn’t mean you have to be best friends. It doesn’t even require that both parties want the divorce. However, both parties must be ready, willing and able to engage in mediation. If you find you have to beg your spouse to go to , they just might not be ready. If you can’t get them to commit to putting a date for mediation on the calendar, that’s a sign they are not ready. If that is the case, you probably need to retain your own attorney to get the divorce process started. Your spouse may opt for mediation later at any time in the process.

If you think your case is a good fit for mediation, you can sign up to get started with a one-time flat fee. If you aren’t sure if you’re a good fit for mediation, schedule a free consultation for more information.

About the Author


John Nachlinger is a co-founder and managing attorney of Netsquire, a family law firm focused on streamlining divorces through effective mediation, settlement drafting, and court filing assistance. As a New Jersey Supreme Court Certified Matrimonial Law Attorney and Qualified Mediator, John guides couples toward equitable agreements without the cost and stress of litigation.

Recognized as a New Jersey Super Lawyer for over a decade, John’s client-focused approach aims to foster understanding during challenging transitions. With a background spanning top law journals, judicial clerkships, and boutique family law firms, John now applies his analytical skills to create workable solutions for all parties. His mediation services reshape the divorce journey by prioritizing compassion and compromise.

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