What is fairness? When it comes to matters of custody, support and division
of assets, each person has a specific sense of what is fair. Most resolve
their family legal issues by settlement and dictate for themselves what
is fair. However, many have a judge make a decision, either a temporary
one during a divorce, after a Trial, or in a post-judgment action. It
is the “fairness” of a judge’s decision that causes
the most negative emotions about the family court system.

Judges are supposed to be neutral arbitrators of disputes between two individuals.
The problem is that judges are human and bring their own sense of fairness
and right/wrong to the bench. Because judges are granted extensive discretion
by our law and few litigants can afford to appeal their decisions, it
is easy to believe that judges essentially can do whatever they want.
This is a simplistic view of the family court in New Jersey, but a not
altogether incorrect one.

We can point to many examples of decisions by trial court judges that seem
to be based more on personal feelings about a litigant than the law or
the facts. For example, we recently were before a judge who started the
proceedings by essentially saying that our client was a bad guy, before
any argument was made by the attorneys. It is frustrating to litigants
and most attorneys alike who look to the court to be neutral, only review
the facts before it and strictly apply the law. Moreover, there is a sense
that judges and some lawyers work together to perpetuate family court
disputes, but that is not the correct way to look at the process and is
factually incorrect the majority of the time. What we always tell our
clients is that we cannot change the laws on the books or the discretion
given to judges, so it is best to keep your dispute away from the courts
and only take your dispute to a judge as a last resort. Even our best
judges can make poor decisions due to the quality of the facts presented
or the constraints of the law.

Despite all of the above, we still believe the family court in New Jersey
is among the best in the nation. There are many great judges who try very
hard to do the right thing. Regardless of the laws or the quality of the
people who wear the black robes, there will always be disagreements about
fairness and justice. Those are inherently subjective terms. If you want
to ensure you do not have to make a judgement as to whether you and your
family has been treated fairly by the court, you must keep your dispute
out the court.

We pride ourselves on resolving cases out of court. Not only do you not
subject yourself to a judge’s decision, but you save substantial
money from not getting pulled down by the judicial process. If you want
to see how our approach to keeping your dispute away from judges would
help your situation,

Remember…we will not tell you what you want to hear. We will tell
you what you need to know!

About the Author


John Nachlinger is a co-founder and managing attorney of Netsquire, a family law firm focused on streamlining divorces through effective mediation, settlement drafting, and court filing assistance. As a New Jersey Supreme Court Certified Matrimonial Law Attorney and Qualified Mediator, John guides couples toward equitable agreements without the cost and stress of litigation.

Recognized as a New Jersey Super Lawyer for over a decade, John’s client-focused approach aims to foster understanding during challenging transitions. With a background spanning top law journals, judicial clerkships, and boutique family law firms, John now applies his analytical skills to create workable solutions for all parties. His mediation services reshape the divorce journey by prioritizing compassion and compromise.

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