I Want To Have A Prenuptial Agreement: Now What?

Prenuptial Agreement Series — Part 2

This is how we often see things happen: So I want to get a Prenuptial Agreement.
I’ve already talked to my fiancé. We agreed to certain terms
so I’ll just call around, have an attorney draft a quickie Prenuptial
Agreement on the cheap for us to sign the week before the wedding. I’m
sure my fiancé will sign it since we’ve already talked about

That is a terrible idea. It only increases the probability that you will
either not be able to find an attorney who can draft your Prenuptial Agreement
in time for the wedding, or if you do, they will charge you exorbitantly
more just for it. It also increases the likelihood of the Prenuptial Agreement
being challenged in the event of a

It is preferable that you commence work on your Prenuptial Agreement well
in advance of the wedding, several months at the very least and preferably
more. The reason for this is largely to ensure that you have enough time
to consult with an attorney, draft and revise the document and present
it to your fiancé. The preparation process is just as important,
if not more important, than having your fiancé review it and sign
it. So we recommend that you commence this process as early as possible.
Waiting a few days or even a few weeks before the wedding is not a good
idea. Also consider that you have to find an attorney who has time in
his or schedule to fit you in and draft the document.

You should also consult with an attorney about your Prenuptial Agreement
before you even have any significant discussions with your fiancé
about the Prenuptial Agreement. The reason for this is because there may
be issues you haven’t even considered yet until you talk to an attorney.
The attorney may raise points or educate you on certain issues that may
affect what you are considering agreeing to in your Prenuptial Agreement.
Even if you ultimately decide not to follow all of your attorney’s
advice, at least you can engage in the conversation with your fiancé
informed and knowledgeable about how a Prenuptial Agreement could apply
to your circumstances. We have had countless conversations with clients
about Prenuptial Agreements who often say, “I hadn’t even
thought about that.” If you haven’t already promised your
fiancé anything, it may be easier to negotiate the terms than if you had.

You should also be prepared to make full disclosures of your income, assets
and liabilities. Your attorney can advise you better with all of this
information. It should also be included in your Prenuptial Agreement.
The current relevant statute relating to a Prenuptial Agreement in New
Jersey does not absolutely require disclosure of finances. However, any
waiver of full disclosures is required to be acknowledged and agreed to
in writing. Whether it is prudent for you to make disclosures in your
Prenuptial Agreement or not will depend on your goals and your particular
circumstances, which should be discussed at length with your attorney
before drafting your Prenuptial Agreement.

Once you and your attorney have developed a plan for the drafting of your
Prenuptial Agreement, you may or may not be ready to discuss the details
with your fiancé. In either case, your attorney will likely spend
at least several hours drafting your Prenuptial Agreement, which requires
your review and redrafting until it comprehensively addresses all issues.
Only then is it presented to your fiancé.

Once the Prenuptial Agreement is presented to your fiancé, then
your fiancé should have ample time to carefully review it and seek
legal advice from another attorney. This also is a process that requires
time. Your fiancé and his or her attorney may seek revisions to
the Prenuptial Agreement. This could occur numerous times until a final
draft that is acceptable to both of you is achieved.

We also recommend that you and your fiancé have your attorneys communicate
on your behalf regarding revisions and related issues. Planning your wedding
and preparing for marriage is a stressful event, but it is also one that
should be a happy time in your life. Negotiating a Prenuptial Agreement
can cause conflict. Let the attorneys flesh those out.

It should be apparent that getting a Prenuptial Agreement done is not just
a quick process as simple as getting a marriage certificate. It is an
important document that deserves your time and attention without being
rushed. It could very well turn out to be one of the most important documents
you ever sign.

Today to schedule an initial consultation to discuss your options.

About the Author


John Nachlinger is a co-founder and managing attorney of Netsquire, a family law firm focused on streamlining divorces through effective mediation, settlement drafting, and court filing assistance. As a New Jersey Supreme Court Certified Matrimonial Law Attorney and Qualified Mediator, John guides couples toward equitable agreements without the cost and stress of litigation.

Recognized as a New Jersey Super Lawyer for over a decade, John’s client-focused approach aims to foster understanding during challenging transitions. With a background spanning top law journals, judicial clerkships, and boutique family law firms, John now applies his analytical skills to create workable solutions for all parties. His mediation services reshape the divorce journey by prioritizing compassion and compromise.

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