Most children participate in some sort of extracurricular activity at some
point in their childhood. These activities can range from soccer to ballet
to horseback riding, and can provide excellent enrichment and exercise
for children. When the parents of the child have divorced, however, are
the parents required to agree on which activities a child will participate in?
, it’s also important to understand who will bear the cost.

As with medical decision making, the first issue when determining which
parent gets to make the decision on which activities the child will participate
in is whether the parents share joint legal custody or if one parent has
sole legal custody. The vast majority of New Jersey divorces result in
joint legal custody. In that case, the parents need to coordinate and
work together to attempt to reach an agreement on which activities the
child will be enrolled in. If one parent makes a unilateral decision to
enroll the child in a particular activity or sport, the court can look
at several factors to determine whether the child will be permitted to
continue on in that activity. One factor is whether the other parent has
a history of denying requests for the child to participate in activities.
More important is whether the activity will take up any of the parenting
time of the non-consenting parent. Finally, the over-arching issue is
always whether the activity is in the best interest of the child.

New Jersey child support guidelines provide that costs for many extracurricular
activities are already included in child support payment. The guidelines
state that entertainment fees are part of what child support is designed
to pay for. Entertainment is defined as those expenses used for sports,
lessons, and the like as well as the equipment that goes along with that.
Therefore, if the parent receiving child support wishes to sign the child
up for a sport, careful consideration should be given to the expenses
surrounding the activity, as well as the cost of necessary equipment,
and whether the cost is within the household budget.

On occasion, a child may be truly phenomenal at her chosen activity. When
a child displays exceptional talent, often extra lessons or equipment
is required to help her excel and develop her talent. In such a case,
it is possible for the paying parent to request that extra funds be paid
over and above regular child support to help share these costs

with helping our clients unravel the ins and outs of planning their child’s
extracurricular activities in the framework of their custody order, and
helping understand which parent has the ability to make these decisions.
Call us at(732) 479-4711

and we will review your case with you and help determine if the extracurricular
decisions for your child are being made in accordance with your court order.

About the Author


John Nachlinger is a co-founder and managing attorney of Netsquire, a family law firm focused on streamlining divorces through effective mediation, settlement drafting, and court filing assistance. As a New Jersey Supreme Court Certified Matrimonial Law Attorney and Qualified Mediator, John guides couples toward equitable agreements without the cost and stress of litigation.

Recognized as a New Jersey Super Lawyer for over a decade, John’s client-focused approach aims to foster understanding during challenging transitions. With a background spanning top law journals, judicial clerkships, and boutique family law firms, John now applies his analytical skills to create workable solutions for all parties. His mediation services reshape the divorce journey by prioritizing compassion and compromise.

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