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  • When Is It Time to “Lean In” to Your Divorce?

    By now, you are probably familiar with Facebook’s Chief Operating Officer Sheryl Sandberg’s “Lean In” philosophy. You don’t have to be a feminist or even a woman to learn something from this philosophy. Many of us could learn to Lean In with respect to many aspects of our lives. It is basically the proposition that when it comes time to make decisions and take action to better yourself and your ...
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  • How To Prep For Your Divorce

    In divorce land, the December holiday season is generally a bit quiet. That certainly doesn’t mean that everyone is blissfully happy. We have all been programmed to be polite and avoid difficult conversations that may hurt someone’s feelings. It’s hard enough to tell someone you want to end a marriage on an ordinary day. Doing it during the holidays seems unthinkable. (Although I have had enough ...
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  • Why We Want to Get Found Out

    We all have a public self that we show the world. We often have several of them that we show in different settings. Sometimes the self we show at work is a bit different from the self we show our friends. Sometimes we even have different personas we share with different friends. This is not to say that we aren’t being ourselves at any given time, but let’s face it. We show a different side of ...
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  • The Compromise Shall Set You Free!

    I often see people in the midst of a divorce most frustrated by the fact that the divorce seems to be taking such a long time. It’s probably one of the most common questions. When will this be done, and why is it taking so long?! As with most things, the answer often lies within you. We often get upset that our spouse is being unreasonable, or won’t accept our reasonable settlement offer. I often ...
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  • Take Your Power Back!

    Once you’ve identified that you’ve lost your power somewhere along the way, how do you get it back? Don’t expect someone to give it to you. You take it back! Remember this: No one can take your power from you without your permission. If you’ve lost your power, it’s because you have given it away. However, you and only you can take it back. And you can take it back the very moment you decide to ...
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  • A Divorce Is Not A Failure

    Why is it that we automatically view a marriage that ends in a divorce as a failure? In this day and age, is marriage really expected to last forever for all of us? We have been programmed to believe that “til death do us part” means that anything less than that is shameful. A divorce to most of us means something went wrong somewhere. But whether a marriage has lasted for 2 years or 20 years, why ...
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  • Finding Your Power Through Divorce

    This blog is all about people finding their power. But what does that mean? And how do you know if you’ve even lost your power in the first place? Unleashing your power is really just about making decisions for yourself – and acting consistently with those decisions – to support your true desires. It’s about doing what you want, when you want, to further yourself without that nagging feeling (you ...
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  • What Your Divorce Lawyer Won’t Tell You

    When you are going through a divorce, it’s important to keep in mind that your lawyer is not your friend. While you may have a cordial relationship and it may seem like a friendship at times, it’s a business relationship. That means if your lawyer sees you making a mistake or making a poor decision, they may not always tell you. This is especially true if the divorce has been dragging on for ...
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  • First Things First: The Top Five Things You Must Do When Divorce is on the Horizon

    Whether you have made the decision to move forward with a divorce, or your spouse made the decision, there are certain housekeeping functions that need to be accomplished. Doing these things will empower you with the knowledge and information that you need so that you can make decisions about your future. (1) Locate all important paperwork relating to the family finances. Whether you are the one ...
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  • The Key to Leaving a Bad Marriage: Finding Your A-ha Moment

    I was recently talking to a close friend about her divorce experience to try to gain a better perspective for the benefit of my coaching clients. I often have coaching calls with prospective coaching clients that just don’t seem ready to move forward with a divorce. I find this the most perplexing when they are so certain about the misery of their marriage yet won’t do anything to remove ...
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