There is no getting around the difficult reality that a divorce is difficult for both parties. The difficulty comes in every form from emotional to financial. It simply is a tough time for the spouses and any children involved. No one gets married expecting that the marriage will someday disintegrate, but there are ways to smooth and speed your divorce process.
First, communication with your soon-to-be former spouse is often the key to making the transition smooth. Although this may be easier said than done considering all the anger and hurt feelings, communication can help stop some problems before they even start. Sitting down with your spouse and discussing the assets and debts that have accumulated during the marriage will give you both a clear picture of what issues may arise in the future. Similarly concerning any children, it is beneficial to understand each of our respective positions. Note that there is no reason to expect you and your spouse to agree right away, but just understanding the other party’s position can help get the divorce moving faster.
Second, mediation is often a way to help a divorce progress quicker. A mediator is a neutral third party who will help you and your spouse try to find common ground and settle as many issues as possible. A mediator will not force you to settle or make a decision for you. Rather, the mediator is trained to help divorcing parties identify issues and try to get to a mutually beneficial settlement agreement. Mediation can be done at any time during your divorce process and can often help parties avoid the time and expense involved in going to trial.
Third, have a realistic conversation with your children if they are old enough to understand what is going on. Although this will not speed up your divorce, you are not doing your children any favors by trying to hide reality from them. Your children also need time to process the transition, and telling them sooner rather than later will help give them the time they need.
Finally, do not ignore the emotional impact that divorce has on you and your kids. Family counseling can be greatly beneficial to help you process emotions, which in turn can help you better communicate with your spouse. Better communication is often the key to a settlement agreement, and a quicker resolution.If you are facing a divorce, you need an experienced attorney to help you navigate the process. Contact us today at (732) 529-6937. We can talk about how to make your divorce a smoother, quicker process.