Every divorce is unique and presents particular issues. Just as no two divorces are alike, no two children are alike. Parents often need to get creative when coming up with parenting schedules for their children. Customized visitation schedules make it so parents can carefully tailor custody and visitation provisions to suit the particular needs and preferences of their children. “Nesting Arrangement” or “Birdnesting” is a particular type of custody arrangement that divorcing parents may want to consider.
A nesting custody arrangement means that instead of a child being moved back and forth between two houses for custody exchanges, the child remains in the same home and the parents are the ones who are switching. In other words, the parents will stay in the residence only during their visitation time. Then the parent who does not have visitation scheduled will leave the residence and stay somewhere else while the other parent stays with the child. The large and obvious advantage to this arrangement is it provides the maximum amount of stability possible for the child. Even though the parents have to shuffle in and out, the child’s environment remains the same from day to day. Children thrive with stability, and so this type of arrangement can really help children keep a sense of stability during an otherwise chaotic time. Certain children with special needs can also really benefit from the arrangement, as stability for them can be even more vital.
The arrangement can have a definite drawback, however. The arrangement requires the parents to continue to share a home, even if they are not staying there at the same time. Especially where the home does not have enough bedrooms for the parents to each have their own room, this type of custody arrangement would require that the parents share a room. Parents who have a particularly acrimonious divorce or are uncomfortable continuing to share space with their former spouse should consider a different custodial arrangement. The other drawback is financial. In theory, this arrangement provides for three separate homes: the home where the child lives in addition to the home that each spouse goes to when he or she is not enjoying visitation with the child. This can be too expensive for most budgets to bear, and so spouses need to consider their budgetary constraints if they want to have a nesting custody arrangement.We have experience helping our clients find creative solutions for their custody disputes. Contact us today at (732) 529-6937 to talk about your children and what solutions we can create for your case.